This month Mr B and I are taking part in #FlashFiveFriday run by The Indie Exchange.
#FlashFiveFriday is a weekly flash fiction / flash blogging prompt.
The rules are very simple if you’d like to take part:
1) Write for no longer than five minutes
2) No upper or lower word limits
3) You must write something new
4) You can prepare your post ahead of time but the 5 minute limit still applies
5) If you add your blog post to the weekly linky you must visit five other blogs that week too to show your support
#FlashFiveFriday – Date
There is a great line from The Smiths’ song “How Soon is Now?” which goes, “I am the son and the heir, of a shyness that is criminally vulgar.” In my teens and young adult life I often felt that description captured me, it still does at times. I didn’t really have many dates when I was a teenager, always too shy to ask the girls I liked or if I did pluck up the courage they were never interested. As Kurt Vonnegut once wrote, so it goes.
I used to get hung up on girls I had never asked out but today I can look back and be proud that I wasn’t braver as it may have changed the whole course of my life and prevented me reaching the point I am at now.
In late 2008 I met my now wife, Donna. We were just work colleagues to begin with but by February 2009 we were good friends and used to have a drink or two after work. We agreed to go to the cinema together on another occasion, just as friends, but by the evening we had come to realise it was something more. Donna told me she had feelings for me and after overcoming the shock of her being interested in me I told her I felt the same. We were officially a couple a few days later and have been together ever since. I suppose you could say we’d had a few dates prior to getting together, we just never realised it at the time.
Funny I should read David’s post before starting mine because I was going to write about how we probably had very different ideas about what our first date was. In actual fact it seems like we’re on the same wavelength when we both remember the cinema.
Dave’s right. It wasn’t our first ‘date that’s not a date’ date. It wasn’t even our first official date. It was one of the bravest dates of my life (using the other meaning of the word), when I thought ‘Sod it’ and declared how I felt and then felt sick but determined.
Then, 18 months ago, another signficant date: our wedding day. I felt nervous but determined, knowing that sometimes you just have to take the plunge. Don’t get me wrong – I knew I’d marry David pretty quickly. But someone told me I hadn’t seemed the marrying type and asked what he did to change me.
I guess the answer to that is sometimes there are things in life that make you brave enough to take the plunge – be it a first date or a significant date. If it’s good enough, it might be both and change your life forever.